My wife died suddenly in 2005, leaving myself and our seven-month-old son behind. Since then we've been dealing with life together and sharing our experiences (and parenting genius) here. Constantly inspired by Samantha's death, we aim to end every day smiling, we hope you do too.
It's a question parents ask themselves all the time, and one we want to always answer yes, and permanently look towards a wonderful healthy future raising our children, being as fit as they need us to be. But how fit and healthy am I in reality?
I’m working on a E.ON campaign getting people to think
about what’s really important in their lives, and concentrating on no more than
I’ve agreed to take part in consultation sessions with four
different experts, the latest of which specialises in health, wellbeing and
This area of my existence is one I’ve perhaps focused on in
fits and starts in my life.Having
a bit of a realisation moment a few years ago, when I realised that things
really needed to change if I was going to consider myself healthy.
As did my realisation that I don’t know myself as well as I
should, nor do I know anywhere near as much as I think I do about my health.
Not that I feel I got lectured.Talking to Tim was a really pleasant and positive
experience, he apologised for being direct, but he need not have done.I love those that give it straight.
We did a walkthrough of my daily routine, pausing to make
notes and actions, and found generally that I’m far from a lost cause.
Generally, and like many busy parents, my biggest mistake is
leaving too long between meals.He
pointed out that having a breakfast at 8am then not eating again till 2pm or
later is really not fantastic for the body.
It can lead to bad moods, add to stress and leave you
Yep, that’s why we feel like crap, or certainly part of the
We spoke quite a lot about how you know when you feel low
and why, when you can tell you’ve run out of energy.And one of the first actions to come out of our consultation
was to keep a food, mood and energy diary.Hopefully with the aim of building a picture as to what
foods have what affect, and then making further changes to my diet and to my
May seem like a ridiculously simple thing to do, and for
some unnecessary.Some people can
quickly establish what foods give them energy or have a negative impact.However I’m a man that pondered for a
good while why I was struggling to get to sleep, and I did so over a pint or so
of diet coke a night.I had a light bulb/pint glass moment to realise and make a change.In short: a diary will really help.
Another action is to add mid-morning and mid-afternoon
snacks into my diet as a matter or course or planning.Our breakfast, lunches and meals are
fairly well planned out, so it won’t be too much more effort to think about –
and plan – what to eat in between. But could have a dramatic impact on the amount of energy I have for the things that really matter.
The final action is to perhaps introduce a short, but specific,
training session into my weekly routine.I generally keep fit these days by playing and training for hockey
matches.Playing at the weekends,
and training in the early part of the week with my teammates.Another personal session towards the
weekend would probably improve my fitness, my performance and most importantly,
my overall enjoyment.
Tim was really good and suggested I avoid things I don’t like,
or do a ‘boring’ simple session of running, cycling or swimming.Yuck.Better to find something that I actually want to do, and
even better if that routine mimics the movements a hockey player makes during a
Hopefully I'll have more energy for games, and understand better perhaps why sometimes I feel like I don't have any at all.
Plenty to think about, and plenty to think about positively.
This is a sponsored post in collaboration with E.ON
A better sense of reality, and a fully trained monkey butler
amongst them, but do I really need a lifestyle coach?
As part of a campaign I’m helping E.ON with, I was afforded
the chance to engage with a one of the country’s finest lifestyle gurus, Louise Presley-Turner. E.ON are engaging with bloggers in changing their lives and lifestyles for the better, with the help of some well chosen experts.
Our session started even before Louise (and an E.ON film
crew) came to visit me in my home.
She supplied some easy-to-use materials that asked me to score
certain aspects of my life, together with a list of questions that would help
me towards setting some specific and measurable goals to improve my life.
As someone whose gone through some massive life changes in a
rush, I like to think I am reasonably good at getting things in perspective and
taking action to improve the various facets that make up my existence.
Getting the balance about right, and evaluating what’s really
important and prioritising matters as such.
I think looking at your life in a structured way, and with
someone there to guide you, and perhaps more so, make sure that you actually
take action and follow up on the things you write down would benefit most
It would certainly help me.
Talking through my answers Louise’s resources had generated,
quickly helped identify which areas I could make small improvements with, but
those areas where I perhaps need to take more drastic action.
Louise is clearly well suited to lifestyle coaching and has
a very approachable manner, extremely polite, but gets you to the point and
focused.Not always an easy
task with moi.
I’m going to be accessing what I came out of the session
with, and hopefully carry out some positive actions as a result. If I'm brave I may even try recording my progress in a small video diary. Watch this space.
Or more accurately, Lego DC Superheroes movie. Even more that JUST Batman, all the heroes from that stable. And we are amongst the first to get to
We are huge fans of the Lego Batman franchise.Building the sets, playing the video
games, and now, watching the film.
My son, Max, was inconsolable when he accidentally deleted
all our saved data from our Lego Batman 2 game playing.Though he was quickly over it, when we
suffered the ‘hardship’ of having to play our way though the game from start to
Parenting doesn’t get much tougher than that.
So what about the film?Is it any good?
The short answer is yes.The longer one is be damn sure it is.
I’ve always thought that the video interludes in the
videogame were of a very high standard and a little wasted, but now I know they
had a plan.Doesn’t Batman always
The graphics used are awesome, or I think the more accurate
description is ‘sick’.That’s what
my nearly nine-year-old made of them anyway.
There’s lots of humour in the film for both youngsters and
the young at heart.
scene where Batman and Superman come to visit Lex Luthor which is particularly
With a just over 60 minutes running time, it's far from being short, the prefect length, and it keeps a child’s attention (and a easily distractable 36-year-old for
that matter).We didn’t even once
reach for a tablet or smartphone, like we can do sometimes if movies drag a
Not the case with this one at all.
And I'm guessing this is a film that my boy will want his friends to watch when they come round. I may even share it with my friends, that's if I had any, of course.